Today, I had a moment that made me stop and think about how assumptions—even well-meaning ones—can perpetuate outdated stereotypes.

While carrying a box of pens (500 to be exact), a man kindly offered to carry it to my car for me because “it’s too heavy for you.” I replied, “It’s 500 pens, I can handle it.”

His expression—a mix of doubt and surprise—spoke volumes.

This moment made me reflect on how often women are underestimated. It’s not about the pens or even this one interaction; it’s about a broader pattern that plays out in everyday life. The assumption that women need help or that we’re somehow less capable can be both frustrating and disheartening.

For centuries, society has conditioned us to believe that strength, both physical and mental, is a male domain. Yet women have been breaking these stereotypes all along.

Proverbs 31:17 describes a virtuous woman as someone who “sets about her work vigorously; her arms are strong for her tasks.” This scripture reminds us that strength is not confined to men—it is a divine gift given to women as well.

Throughout history, women have shown extraordinary resilience and capability. From Deborah, who led Israel as a judge (Judges 4), to Ruth, whose loyalty and hard work brought redemption to her family, the Bible is filled with examples of women rising to the occasion and defying expectations. These stories inspire us to embrace our God-given strength and courage in the face of doubt.

To be fair, we all make assumptions. It’s human nature. But what if we paused before acting on them? What if, instead of assuming someone needs help, we asked if they’d like assistance? It’s a small shift that respects the other person’s autonomy and abilities while still offering support.

As women, we’ve proven time and again that we can handle whatever life throws at us—from managing households and careers to breaking barriers in male-dominated fields. We don’t need to “prove” our strength, but it’s nice when others recognize and respect it without question.

So, to the man who offered to carry my pens: I know your intention was kind, and I do appreciate it. But next time, instead of assuming I can’t handle it, trust that I can—or simply ask if I’d like help. Chances are, I’ve got it under control.

Hold my beer.

Love. Give. Live.

P.S. Jamie, if you’re reading this, I forgive you, and I hope your surgery goes well.